I will change. - Narcissism is Necessary

I will change.

When it comes to relationships with other people, don’t focus on what their motives or intentions are. Don’t focus on their speeches.

Focus on their actions instead. Actions are tangible while thoughts and speeches are not.

Because you will never, ever truly know what people’s minds are thinking….you will just end up hurting yourself & others by speculating & guessing. Why? Because uncertainty breeds contempt and resentment. That is not fair to anyone.

If you disliked someone’s action, tell that somebody immediately so that he or she can decide what to do. Only then you handle it from there.

Don’t keep the dislike or discomfort inside you because it will fill your head with doubt and ultimately consume you and everything else that is good.

Lastly, learn to let go. Because the past should never overpower your future.

Had an enlightening conversation with my husband. He basically taught me the wisdom above.

I have finally come to the realisation that I overanalyse one’s action so much so that it becomes bigger and more severe than it really is.

I am too preoccupied with the “motive” or intention behind an action that I simply forget that shit just happens.  Simply put, I am a fucked-up, straight-up batshit crazy conspiracy theorist. I get too carried away.

Today I will start to change that.

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9 Responses to I will change.

  1. Tian Chad April 13, 2013 at 10:51 am #

    Have a nice day and stay positive Kim =)

    • Kimberlycun April 13, 2013 at 12:25 pm #

      thanks tian chad, have a good weekend u!

  2. Jwxwei April 13, 2013 at 12:39 pm #

    I have the propensity to over-analyse the actions of others as well. And yes, many a time it has affected how I view and treat people when it shouldn’t. So, thank you for sharing this piece of wisdom, Kim :)

  3. eyeris April 13, 2013 at 1:39 pm #

    Time to start learning how to not give a fuck. hehe.

  4. Michelle April 13, 2013 at 9:36 pm #

    It is true!
    But being the female that we are, we always tend to over analyse and let it creep under our skin.

    Toast to a better you!

    All the best and Be positive.

  5. Sabrina April 15, 2013 at 8:28 pm #

    Thanks for the wisdom Kim! I have been through alot lately and it has changed my perception/action towards other’s. I’m glad I have read your post and I will try to move forward for the better.

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