When it comes to relationships with other people, don’t focus on what their motives or intentions are. Don’t focus on their speeches.
Focus on their actions instead. Actions are tangible while thoughts and speeches are not.
Because you will never, ever truly know what people’s minds are thinking….you will just end up hurting yourself & others by speculating & guessing. Why? Because uncertainty breeds contempt and resentment. That is not fair to anyone.
If you disliked someone’s action, tell that somebody immediately so that he or she can decide what to do. Only then you handle it from there.
Don’t keep the dislike or discomfort inside you because it will fill your head with doubt and ultimately consume you and everything else that is good.
Lastly, learn to let go. Because the past should never overpower your future.
Had an enlightening conversation with my husband. He basically taught me the wisdom above.
I have finally come to the realisation that I overanalyse one’s action so much so that it becomes bigger and more severe than it really is.
I am too preoccupied with the “motive” or intention behind an action that I simply forget that shit just happens. Simply put, I am a fucked-up, straight-up batshit crazy conspiracy theorist. I get too carried away.
Today I will start to change that.