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Red tide.

This was supposed to be a private post but I feel like I need to share it because it’s important. Initially I try to post only positive things about my pregnancy but the truth is, the thought that the worst could happen is always at the back of my head.

I don’t mean to say I am incapacitated by a constant fear for the worst but I feel like somehow publicly acknowledging that I have problems with my first pregnancy, along with the great things about it (better hair, better skin, better moods, etc) that I will be able to show a more realistic situation.

When I was about to hit the 3 month mark, something really scary happened, which I have written in length below. I am close to 6 months pregnant now and everyday I am thankful that I could feel every kick and movement from my baby.


It was 9 March 2014, 1pm. As soon as I looked down, my body went cold. Staring back at me was what used to be my pristine white panties, now stained with brownish, reddish stains.

I called out for Gareth, he rushed into our bathroom. I could see his face crumbled upon seeing what I had just seen.

We had been anticipating the end of the week as it marked the beginning of my 12-week pregnancy – the end of my 1st trimester. This was supposed to be the safe time to announce one’s pregnancy. We were so excited to finally be able to openly share our good news. We planned to make the announcement on Gareth’s birthday.

Suddenly, all our plans seemed a million years away. I was so confused. I felt numb but at the same time, I had to keep telling myself that this is common and it happens to many people.

It’s common, it’s common, it’s common…and yet, I felt numb. I told G we had to go to the hospital.

It was a Sunday and the O&G section had its shutters down. I was disappointed as I thought hospitals were supposed to operate 24/7. We decided to head to the emergency room instead.

There was quite a crowd. “I am pregnant and I am bleeding”, I told the young man behind the counter. I was whisked to the back of the emergency room almost immediately.

They gave me a basic check-up and then they told me my obgyn was on the way. She arrived from home 1/2 hour later.

She started giving me an ultrasound. As soon as I saw the image on the screen – the outline of a fetus with a tiny beating heart and fingers, tears started welling up in my eye. I dreaded what my doctor was going to tell me next – that our baby would start leaving my body.

Instead, she said the baby looked great, and I had no clots around my uterus which was a good sign. She told me I am suffering from a condition called “threatened miscarriage” and nobody, not even doctors know exactly why it happens. What she can do is give me some progesterones and a lot of rest. I was due to see her in another week.

Husband and I made jokes about how his Welsh blood would make the baby extra strong and that he or she would stick all the way to September (my due date).

It’s been two days since the terrible day. I am still spotting but I’ve never soaked through one sanitary pad per day, which to me is really good. In fact, I’ve never had any unusual cramp.

A moment ago though, while doing the number 2, I painlessly passed the largest lump of dark blood clot since I started spotting a couple of days ago. It’s the sized of a dried sliced apricot. This episode shook me a little.

We decided against going to the emergency, because I am not in pain and honestly there is nothing I can do if my body decides to purge it. We are just hoping for the best.


A week after I wrote the above, I stopped bleeding. Doc gave me another scan and confirmed everything was okay. We went on to announce the pregnancy and I even went clubbing at Velvet (hah, don’t know how to die right?).

Since, my confidence about this pregnancy increased daily. Everytime I looked down onto my panties and saw nothing, I’d say a little atheist prayer.

A couple of months passed and a few days ago, it happened again. Spots of blood on my panties and in the toilet. Sigh.

That dreadful feeling came back, the questions and the constant googling about losses at this advanced stage. In the end I decided that I need to calm my shit down. We didn’t even go to the emergency room, I have done enough reading to know that as long as I’m not gushing blood and not having severe cramps being at the emergency room won’t help.

Thankfully, the spotting has reduced significantly. I am hoping it’s just a pattern – something that happens to me as I enter a new trimester. Maybe it’s the universe’s way of keeping me humble. It sure is effective.

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Lance and Melissa got hitched!

Finally, these two birds have gotten hitched in the eyes of society hehe. What a fun, great wedding party!

The venue was at Tujo, Ascott Kuala Lumpur – love the glass ceiling and walls!

# – Lance and Melissa <3

The groom surprised the bride with some kind of epic military truck as bridal car, haha. Amazing!

# – Imagine the groom’s entourage all decked out in military costume coming out of this truck to take the bride away! Haha.

# – Wedding vows time! I cried a little course it was beautiful! Mel looked spectacular!

# – The newlyweds cut the cake.

The cake was super delicious…so moist and buttery!

In fact, a little girl seated just behind us was eating so much of the cake we overheard the father telling her to “Stop eating the cake” in a booming voice, hahahhaa.

# – Awwww :)

# – The cake. Yums yums yums.

# – Me and hubs selfie.

Wedding party started at 3pm and didn’t end till after midnight. Blame Lance for the non-stop booze…been a while since I saw all the terbabas faces, pictures shall not be published in public domain. Hahahaha.

Thanks for having us at your beautiful wedding! So happy for your guys…Love you two! <3

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Our Vietnamese lunch favourite – Obanhmi in Damansara Utama / Damansara Uptown

Everytime we’re in need of something tasty & healthy for lunch, we would head to Obanhmi in Damansara Utama or Uptown. We may have eaten there about half a dozen times so far.

This place has never disappointed us once. Offering a range of Vietnamese style sandwiches called banh mi on top of a few other Vietnamese fares, Obanhmi is a wonderful place to grab a quick but satisfying meal.

# – The Vietnamese sandwich.

# – Obanhmi.

Parking is not as terrible as the inside square of Damansara Uptown, most times we’re able to find a space near the shop.

The menu isn’t big, but that’s okay as they focus on what they’re good at.

# – The menu. Price is certainly affordable – around the same as Subway but with much better food. Non-halal though.

Obanhmi makes their own baguettes. If you like to have your baguettes super fresh, you could check them out at specific times.

# – For freshly baked baguettes, go at 8am, 12.30pm, 1pm and 6pm.

# – The interior is simple and comfortable.

Our staple is the “O Roasty” sandwich – a bahn mi packed with pork liver pate, fresh vegetables, pickled vegetables and ROAST PORK.

# – O-Roasty.

# – Cross section of O-Roasty.

They have recently introduced a new item which name has escaped me now, but it’s basically a bowl of vermicelli, with chopped up roast pork, chopped up deep-fried spring rolls and loads of fresh vegetables served with a clear sweetish spicy sauce.


It’s decadent yet refreshing, like a very good bowl of salad meal should be. Lots of textures and taste.

# – My favourite at Obanhmi now.

The serve really good rolls too…both fried and fresh rolls.

# – “O Rolly”, the fried rolls. Crispy on the outside and great texture on the inside. Delicious filling of minced pork, mushroom, carrots and glass noodles.

# – My weakness is the fresh summer roll though, called “O Summery”. It’s a sight to behold!

# – Cross section of the summer roll. Served with a delicious homemade hoisin sauce, the fillings include basil, mint, chive, lettuce, avocado, pork and prawn.

Of course they serve a mean Vietnamese coffee! They have other beverages such as Vietnamese iced lemon tea, soft drinks and beer too.

# – Vietnamese style iced lemon tea and milk coffee.

33 Jalan SS21/56B,
Damansara Utama,
47400 Petaling Jaya,
Selangor, Malaysia
47400 Petaling Jaya, Malaysia
Tel: 03-7732 8540
Tueday – Sunday: 9.30am – 9.30pm
Monday: Closed

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