I don't feel pretty tonight. - Narcissism is Necessary

I don’t feel pretty tonight.

We had a long and cathartic chat last night. We have these conversations quite regularly, I guess you can call them “bonding sessions”. Often times, they would involve me saying really nasty things to him (because I’m hot tempered and brutal like that) and him questioning my beliefs and actions like a jerk (because he’s calm and logical like that).

We would be at it until we have thoroughly immersed ourselves in what each other is feeling and thinking. The accidental byproduct of these lashing-outs is that we inadvertently help each other to trace out what’s been triggering the latest wave of negative emotions or actions. And then we would agree to work on whatever issues.

I won’t say I look forward to these chit-chats but I can’t deny that they really do help in keeping our relationship in check. Every time after it happened, I can’t help but see that a relationship is so vulnerable and delicate. It’s very childish to expect bed of roses all the time, to expect your partner to behave or act a certain way and worst of all, to stay mum when something is bothersome. Silence is a silent killer (omg I’m cheesy as hell).

Anyway, after the emotionally charged discussion, we were happy and all again, he rested his head on my belly and we had one of those tender moments. He suddenly said softly, “I feel like giving you a treat tonight”.

I went all manja and replied, “Eeeee…don’t want lah I don’t feel very pretty tonight”.

Immediately, his head popped up. He narrowed his eyes and asked me, “What has pretty got to do with Spicy Chicken McDeluxe?”. And then he launched into a laughing fit.

# – Not pretty enough for Spicy Chicken McDeluxe.

Now, you can probably see why we need these heart to heart talks.


9 Responses to I don’t feel pretty tonight.

  1. WinnieKepala July 1, 2010 at 1:14 pm #

    How very interesting. I just had an “emotionally charged discussion” with my significant other last night too. :) And I was almost gonna blog about it.

    Glad you guys kiss, made up and enjoyed some delicious Spicy Chicken McDeluxe. I went to bed hungry as hell. :(

  2. suanie July 1, 2010 at 1:27 pm #

    but it’s true. silence is a silent killer. i’m learning that

  3. beetrice July 1, 2010 at 1:29 pm #

    LOL!! Nevermind about the Spicy McChicken Deluxe, what was your response to that afterwards? :p

  4. quaintly July 1, 2010 at 1:31 pm #

    im imagining him saying that line in his flat malaysian guai lou accent hahahaha damn funny im cracking up

  5. Z July 1, 2010 at 2:36 pm #

    I LOL’d at the Spicy Chicken McDeluxe reply :D

  6. Robb July 1, 2010 at 3:39 pm #

    talking to each other is important. Never keep quiet over things that affects you. ur loved ones might nvr find out if you don’t tell. :)

  7. Myhorng July 2, 2010 at 9:49 am #

    treat to kim is always food as #1. LOL

  8. KY July 3, 2010 at 5:45 am #

    that’s my favoritest mcD burger!

  9. Kimberlycun July 5, 2010 at 2:17 pm #

    winniekepala: glad u had a talk with your other half too, but something else is better than food! haha

    suanie: not easy to open up but you’ll get there! /hugs

    bee: i took up the burger offer la of course haha

    quaintly: sometimes i’m shocked that he’s actually white lor :P

    z: sigh >_< robb: true that :) myhorng: unfortunately true :P ky: mine tooO!

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